i’m so sorry if someone made you think it’s hard to love you
It kills me to know that Iβll never be yours again.
Therapists are just…. Common sense filters
Me: yeah so I just don’t have the energy to get up and make myself a sandwich or wait for something to cook so I just. Don’t
Her: why don’t you just eat the sandwich components without putting them together
Me:
Her: you can just eat a handful of cheese and some sandwich meat. You don’t have to make a sandwich.
Me:
Me: what
Therapists finding loopholes for mental illness things is one of my favorite things about dealing with mental illness because it really helps me understand that just because a reaction is Common doesn’t mean it’s Right. Does doing dishes stress you out a lot? Buy paper plates. Do your obsessive thoughts make you worry about leaving your curling iron on so you drive home from work to check? Just put the curling iron in your purse and bring it to work with you while we work on tackling where this worry comes from. Symptom management doesn’t have to look like drudgery.
i used to go days without showering because seeing my body was so upsetting that i would end up spiraling and then i realized i could simply turn the lights out. it took some getting used to but i’ve been showering with the lights off for years and it’s now one of my favorite parts of my day.
do whatever you want nothing is real and there’s no need to inflict unnecessary suffering on yourself just to try to seem “normal”
I love this post
Hmmm
These kinds of loopholes make life so. Much. Better.
One of my favorite stories is this lady had extremely bad OCD. Every day she’d be late to work because she was convinced that her hair dryer was going to burn down the house so would always have to turn around and check it. Multiple times a day even. A bunch of doctors tied to “fix” her of that fear, until one day she got a doctor that suggested she bring the hair dryer with her. Other doctors were annoyed, saying that wasn’t a the correct way to help, but she gave it a go. When she had that fear, she’d look over and see the hair dryer unplugged in the seat next to her and was able to carry on. I think it’s such a perfect example of actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard.
That story helped me stop repeatedly checking if my front door was locked. Instead of checking that the door was locked over and over I would check my security system app. If it’s on it will alert me if the front door opens.
“…actually helping someone instead of forcing them into a neurotypical standard” should be added to the Hippocratic Oath.
Started reading about the door and I thought they were gonna say they took the door with them
The thing about having these issues is that the entire point is that your brain doesn’t work like ‘normal’ or what’s seen as standard. What a lot of people fail to realize is that in most cases, trying to force someone to ‘just get over it’ or ‘get used to acting normal’ can be more harmful than helpful. Working *with* the issues to find ways to *function* is so much better. Healing and functioning look different for everyone, and it’s what makes you comfortable.
Normal/accepted is not the only option and it shouldn’t be treated like it is.
“I’m not getting better but at least I haven’t killed myself”
—
I don’t think I’m any good at being alone, but it didn’t feel much better being with you. I thought, even if I don’t really have you – at least not in the way I wanted you, it would be better than being alone. It was the idea that something is better than nothing. But being with someone like that, it can make you feel so empty. Because no matter what you tell yourself, you’ll always want more. It’s a certain type of self-destruction. Waiting, wanting, and hoping things will change when you know they won’t. It makes you think maybe you would be better off alone.